Today, I read an article about a woman with HIV who was raped. The man that attacked her is now HIV positive. All of the commentary surround this was about how she should have told him she was HIV+ and that women with HIV should have a badge or special underwear so that this doesn’t happen to another man. It is 12:12am and I am already done with the world.
WHAT THE FUCKING FUCK.
a thing to learn about cooking is, that isnt enough garlic. there is not enough garlic in there. yeah i know you already put garlic in but shhh, listen, listen to the pot, it says it wants more garlic. seriously more garlic come on i said put in some more garlic fucking dO it you piece of shit. what do you mean that that’s all the garlic you had well i suppose theres nothing for it we have to go pick up some more come on then
Me when I cook.
I don’t fucking understand why I put in all this conscious effort to remove slurs and words like “lame” and “stupid” and “dumb”, but they still fucking stay there. Like okay Judah, you can remove “retarded” but you can’t remove anything else?!?!!? Wtf. I don’t know. I am trying really hard. It is a lot easier when I’m on the internet because I’m thinking before I type, but when I speak out loud, I notice I use words like “crazy” and “insane” (which is internalized ableism considering I have heard these words myself and they have deeply hurt me, but I still use them) and the above words mentioned. If anyone has any advice, it would help a lot!
Flex your vocabulary! Instead of “lame” “stupid” and “dumb” as negative descriptors, try boring, unappealing, a waste of time, uneventful, unoriginal, or trite. As insults, replace with boorish, jerk, asshat, scumbag, ignorant sod, so on and so forth.
I use “crazy” and “insane” a lot as well, but more so as intensifiers - “crazy busy” “insanely fun”. If that’s something you do as well, swap for other intensifiers - incredibly, unbelievably, overwhelmingly, amazingly, ridiculously, so on.
If you’re using them strictly as an insult, try instead illogical, insensible, stubborn, thick-headed, immature, childish, and so on. You can use some words like hysterical or over-sensitive, but be aware that these are tricky as they’ve been used to silence and belittle many advocates for various human rights, so use with caution.
I’m making the assumption that you’re using the above-three as generic insults or negative descriptors, not specifically to insult someone’s intelligence, but if so, I don’t actually have any options for that, sorry.
Basically, describe what it is about the person, action, thing, place or situation you don’t like, instead of falling back on ableist words. Hope that helps some - it’s worked really well for me and maybe you can use it or adapt it as well!